As you've probably noticed by now, I’m passionate about the importance of regularly taking time for yourself. Making sure I take breaks from everything on my to-do list helps to boost my energy levels, shifts my perspective, enhances my optimism and simply keeps me feeling sane! It also helps me to learn how to enjoy my own company and builds my self-confidence.
It's the reason I created the 12-day retreat yourself challenge - to remind myself, and each of you, to enjoy a little me time each day, especially during all the chaos of Christmas time (P.S if you're interested in joining the challenge it's not too late! You can sign up for your free challenge guide here.)
But, just, in case your sick of hearing it from me, I've popped together some of my favourite quotes from much better writers than myself, whose words I hope will inspire you to take care of yourself during this holiday season, and beyond...
Quotes about finding happiness in yourself, not things:
"You're going to realise it one day - that happiness was never about your job, or your degree, or being in a relationship. Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you, it was never about being like the others. One day, you're going to see it - that happiness was always about the discovery, the hope, the listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go. Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself, it was always about embracing the person you were becoming. One day, you will understand. That happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people. It was always about you.”
"Happiness is not a checklist. A dream job, a fast car, even the love of another, will mean nothing at all if you have not yet found a way to feel full and content in your own mind and heart."
I feel like so often we're looking for the next '‘milestone’ to finally make us feel happy. Like buying our first house, landing a promotion or getting engaged. And yes, these things are amazing and can bring so much happiness, but have you ever noticed it’s not long before we move on to focus on the next thing we must achieve to feel more joy? It feels like a never-ending pursuit of happiness, and it's so tiring.
I've recently come to realise that there's no point in constantly seeking happiness from things or from other people - they're simply a bonus when they do happen! Instead, I'm focusing on trying to understanding myself and treating myself with kindness in order to feel more at peace and content all the time.
Quotes about embracing your own company:
"Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your own presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement."
"Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love but don't romanticise life like you can't survive it.
Live for yourself and be happy on your own."
The idea of enjoying your own company and embracing your solitude resonates with me so deeply. Too often we think about being alone as being ‘lonely’ but these are two very different things. It can seem a little daunting, but I think that when you make the choice to embrace your solitude and spend time doing something you love, by yourself, for yourself, you can feel so incredibly fulfilled (and certainly won't feel the absence of others).
Whether you’re single, in a relationship, married or otherwise is totally irrelevant – I truly believe that being able to take time out and enjoy your own company is so important, and so empowering. When you feel happy and whole on your own, it's likely that you will have so much more to give to those around you.
Quotes about switching off:
"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes... including you."
"Healthy is being aware of how much you can actually give and knowing when you need a break."
In theory I have no doubt we all get it, but in reality I'm not sure many of us can say we switch off enough. We all understand that it's hard to give to others if we're tired, run down, stressed and unhappy, but for some reason we carry so much guilt about taking a moment to pause that often we don't take a break until our bodies physically force us to.
It's part of the reason I share my thoughts and my own journey with you guys here, as I hope that together we can remind each other how important self-care is and embed it as a normal part of our lives, not a trend to take part in every now and then. Giving ourselves permission to regularly switch-off and take breaks will help us all be the best version of ourselves we can be - and those around us will thank us for it.
I'm far from perfect, and I've still got a lot to learn when it comes to looking after myself, especially being able to step back and take time out before life gets too hectic (without feeling guilty for it), but I truly believe in the power it will have in helping me to lead a happier, more fulfilled life.
I started retreat society with the hope that sharing my own thoughts, experiences and learnings as I try to be a little kinder to myself and embrace my own company might help other people out there who are trying to do the same.
So, I'm going to live you with the following words of Becca Lee which I adore so much, and strive towards each day...
"Do you know what is beautiful?
What is utterly undeniable?
A woman so confident that she doesn't feel the need to compete. That she doesn't belittle others. That she does not judge. A woman who knows her worth is dictated only from within and isn't dependent on anyone but herself. A woman who works to build others up rather than tear them down. One who relishes in the success of her sisters and never, not for a minute, wishes ill upon another.
A woman who is in love with every single breath that she takes and works to empower others to feel the same."
What are your thoughts on these quotes? Do any of these resonate particularly with you? Are there any other quotes you’ve seen that you’d like to share? Comment below.